This is tonight! I can’t wait to see you there.
I kinda know the person you’re talking about, and she doesn’t describe her experience that way. She never has, to my knowledge. I’m not at all comfortable with putting words in her mouth.
She described some shitty treatment from the group and their friends and staff. It definitely involved crossing her stated physical boundaries and failing to respect her lack of consent. Different people present were implicated to differing amounts by her account, but all of them should have done more to get her out of the situation she was in.
It affects what I think of all of them as people, and I don’t do separate-the-art-from-the-artist.
After she went public, she responded to Himanshu Suri’s request for a private conversation, and some time thereafter, she deleted her originating tumblr post describing the shitty treatment.
I guess the reason most people have kind of put it out of mind is that she’s never spoken about it again, and never asked anyone to do anything on her behalf in the first place. Even if she just doesn’t want to be infamous, it’s not up to others to decide she has no choice and reframe her words to suit their interpretation of what she described.
It sticks with me. I believe her completely. I wish more clarity had been provided in the wake of what seems to be a settling of accounts between her and Himanshu, but that’s not something I’m entitled to.
I honestly don’t know what the correct way to proceed forward with this perspective is. Her comfort and interest is my priority.
So if she wants to drop it, I’m inclined to drop it, even though I can’t really forget about it.
What do you think?
We haven’t yet, but we have a specific plan! I’m sure it will happen many times.
I’ve been really lucky to meet Steffo in person like three or four times, I get that pleasure so rarely with most of my US fans & friends so there’s a special bond there! Also because we’re both COOL AS FR*CK.
My pal Steffeny in Michigan just dropped a video with her band! It’s about reaching a point where you can accept that you’ll make mistakes and not messing up your day by regretting the ones you made before, or dreading the ones you’ll make later.
It’s chippy and fun and Steffo wears like two watches and a super dope Maniac Mansion t-shirt. Share it with your friends and their grateful parents.
Nicki Minaj shining a light on the differences on acceptable sexuality from white women and black women.
I hope she intended the Lemongrab voice I read that “UNACCEPTABLE” in.
Actually if Nicki would retire the Roman voice for a Lemongrab voice I would be really into it.
That’s the beginning of the Chris Claremont & Frank Miller Wolverine miniseries that kicked off the solo title that was the first comic I ever started collecting in order as it came out! I’ll never forget it!
It’s not necessarily good but it influenced me to grow up hairy and volatile and wracked with self-loathing over the latter. Thank you comic books!
I never have talked about it! It really feels like a conversation that wasn’t meant for my consumption, let alone participation, so I don’t think I ever posted any feelings about it. There can be spaces that white beardy folks don’t ram their voices into, I think!
The closest I’ll come to doing so now is saying I love Beyoncé, I love bell hooks, and I love what Trudy wrote about the talk over at The Gradient Lair blog.
That said, this wasn’t weird at all! Always please ask me questions forever!
"A new study shows that men are threatened by confident women taking pictures of themselves, and call these women stupid, socially inept, and ugly. In other news, the world is round, the sky is blue, and the patriarchy is still shitty."
the idea that if you post selfies that is what you :”spend your time doing” is so stupid. kim kardashian spends her time doing a LOT of things. it takes 1 second for her to post a selfie from her phone to instagram. That is why they call it “insta”.
I’ve been posting a lot of selfies the past couple months, ever since I figured out how to use the cameras we have. I also would not say it is what I “spend my time doing”. A fair summary of my past two months: I go out dancing or to see music many nights a week, rap for my fans & friends, have gone on trips, apply for jobs, have phone sex for hours each day, go swimming, drink with my friends on my patio, read books, make collages, baby-sit my friends’ kids, cook lots of meals, watch adventure time with my boyfriend, watch judge judy and do my nails, read political blogs, clean my house, go to the store like 3x a day, walk my dog around my neighbourhood….
….so not the MOST exciting life, but not just taking pictures of myself. But sometimes my lipstick is good and my lashes are on point and my cleavage is out of control and then i like to share it with you all. And whoa if I looked like Kim K I would never fucking stop.
Also - by the way: using Kim K’s picture to talk about how dudes don’t find certain women attractive is absurd. Kim’s boyfriend is the most impressive, hottest rapper alive and he thinks she’s fucking hot. Plus so do all the people that fave her selfies. Don’t worry about Kim K. She’s a fucking millionaire and she’s doing just fine.
Yo shitty fake news study, maybe your causation is backwards. Maybe people who are seen as “less physically and socially attractive” participate more in selfies because the positive feedback and validation prompted by that act helps them resist the encroaching waves of disapproval our arbitrarily spiteful & cruel culture lashes them with on the day to daily. Maybe the cart is being put before the horse in this meaningless judgemental fluff piece. Just because they chose Kim Kardashian to illustrate the post doesn’t mean that everyone who does the thing is a conventionally stunning zillionaire whose obstacles to being perceived as “physically and socially attractive” are totally opt-in and voluntary benign practices like taking pictures of oneself.