Spent the afternoon recording a track that I wrote ten years and one month ago. the beat is the same age but it aged way better than the rhymes. it’s one of the best beats I ever made to this day, honestly. the rhyme was about the same financial and life skills insecurities that pop up through all my work… I realize now thinking back that it was a year after I moved out of my...
Propaganda Filmstrips for the War on Women
I gotta stop giving these Apatow projects a shot. It’s not worth it. I feel like he’s the Dr Dre of film in some sense - irregardless* of one’s estimation of the quality or aesthetic pleasures of his work, he has consistently and single-mindedly pursued the demonization of women at every point in his relentless and prolific contribution to pop culture. He has this gang of...
I have such low expectations for people.
chasingdevon: I expect them to use language that shits on people. I expect to cringe no less than 3 times a day (a good day). I expect people to think I’m oversensitive when really they’d just rather stay shitty people. I expect people to not think critically. FUCK, I JUST WANT PEOPLE TO CARE. AND FOR YOU TO CARE, YOU HAVE TO THINK. YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOURSELF. STOP...
Hip-hop was a problem because an underclass that had been left to die didn’t,...– America Is Dying Slowly: Talking About Hip-Hop After Trayvon Martin - Culture - GOOD (via unequal-design) luv it mane
Y'ALL DON'T HEAR ME THOUGH
Motherfuckers sincerely believe they invented being fat. They’re trying to patent the whole experience; close the door behind themselves. Fuckin’ bullies.
I don’t care to belong to any angry mob that would have me as a member.
lyngay replied to your chat: Young K Weighs In Young K is so smart!! Yes she is, and so are you!
Lyngay Weighs In
Lynda: I think you hit on something when you asked if it was like obscenity, because I do think it's somewhat subjective and yet there is a certain point where all reasonable people will degree - but it's not a line you can mark on a piece of paper.
me: I mean "obscenity" is tricky because it's like "overweight," it has judgement cooked right into the crust and to identify it is to ratify that judgement to some extent... so I think these "you just know" common sense categories are wholly questionable.
Lynda: I agree! I think it's questionable but at the same time, how do you measure? I haven't figured out the answer.
me: I think it doesn't matter. I think we don't need hard categories to do the work of dismantling toxic anti-body culture.
Lynda: Well, I don't think we need hard lines on any category. But ok... thinking this out... what is the point of talking about thin privilege? We do it to point out to people something they didn't even realize they had and ask them to self-examine, right? So how do you ask someone to examine their privilege if we can't tell them if they have it or not?
Lynda: I really like the stuff you say here, though: http://rljd.tumblr.com/post/21890617761/how-to-tell-if-you-have-thin-privilege I definitely agree about thin and fat being undefined.
me: I'm not always certain that the quickest route to getting someone who experiences privilege to understand it is by informing them of their experience. I think the practise that puts that foremost as a tactic for making them understand is understandable because it feels like giving that person a deserved awakening, but it's also the main way to raise defenses and make sure someone is never open to learning about the privilege that they should know they have.
me: I'm not saying that the best thing to do is coddle, but it's not necessarily a disaster if we don't have the ability to point to a tightly defined category and say EVERYONE IN THIS BOX ENJOYS THIS PRIVILEGE IN THIS WAY.
Lynda: Well, I don't think it's informing someone of their experiences to say, "hey, this is a thing. it affects you".
me: I agree! I do think that's a good way to talk about it, and I think that may even be easier to do when it's acknowledged that the categories are nebulous and shifting, and the effect is gradient and not just all or nothing.
Lynda: true. I think it's easier for people to dismiss it as something that doesn't apply to them that way, though.
Lynda: people deny their white privilege even when it is obvious that they are white. ;)
me: wait... doesn't that mean they can dismiss it anyway, no matter what? or am I misunderstanding you?
Lynda: well, anyone can dismiss anything they don't want to hear. I'm just asking, if it's undefined and nebulous then doesn't that make it easier for someone to say, "that doesn't apply to me"?
me: oh! yeah you're probably right that it's easier to say that, especially at first. but I think it provides more of an opportunity, over time, for a small awareness of SOME maybe little, undeniable thing to wiggle into their consciousness that they can be like "oh okay, I guess THAT is a thing," and those things can blossom? eventually?
Lynda: Yeah, I hope. I also just realized. I have totally different opinions on this when it comes to thin privilege and "fat" people's attitudes towards "thin" people than when I do when it comes to similar situations involving race. I have to think on this.
me: I was thinking about that (not YOUR different opinions, ha, just the points of comparison) just now... like light-skinned privilege in Black communities being gradient, and a symptom of white supremacy, but not making a hill of difference to the oppressive white institution.
Lynda: well I would type more but I'm down to one hand and a foot blocking the screen because there's a 5-year-old who has decided she needs All The Attention...
Young K Weighs In
Young K: The problem with privilege is the OPPRESSION that occurs, and people that wear a size 10 or whatever still face that oppression
Young K: Their boyfriends/moms/co-workers still judge them and their food and don't want them to step out of line and and people still tell them they are too fat
me: Right! People are arguing that the experience of BEING above a certain (undisclosed) size - which IS an experience and DOES have things that go with it that are hard - is the beginning and end of it all.
me: It's like non-heteronormative couples who want to get married. Like it IS unjust that they are excluded from the oppressive institution into which they would like to be welcomed, but it's their oppressive mainstream values that turns that inclusion into a political end goal.
Young K: Like does this person think beautiful women don't suffer from misogyny?
me: She doesn't care.
me: She cares about HER experience.
Young K: Fat-hate really hurts fat people. It also hurts people that aren't quite fat, aren't fat YET, or aren't fat anymore. These people have some privileges, but they also are under constant threat about what could happen to them if they become fat. They are being policed externally and maybe internally to watch themselves because they could become fat at any moment. And even if they are not too fat to sit at a desk, they are being told every day that they are too fat to get married (lose 10 pounds first!), too fat to do it in that position, too fast to do it with the lights on, too fat to wear a bikini, etc.
Young K: The fat-positive movement should be concerned with helping end ALL kinds of fat-hate. This will be the best thing for women and people off all sizes, including those experiencing fat oppression and those that get thin privilege. Capitalism & misogyny & fat-hate work together to make us all feel shame about our bodies, and we should do our best to eradicate that.
me: I am posting the hell out of this chat.
[jerk nonsense amplified]
holagordita: if you are a size 10 and below then you’re just NOT FAT, no matter what your body dysmorphia may say believe me i’ve been there (albeit very briefly) honestly i don’t CARE if you ~feel fat~ if you are not actually fat. (i care if you have an eating disorder, but i’m not going to let you be an appropriative shit, either.) i am just fresh out of fucks to give for a size six person...
[jerk nonsense redoubled]
shakethecobwebs: If you’re not thin and you’re not fat then you’re probably an inbetweenie/of average body size You’re appealing to pretend, subjective classes of body as though they have hard boundaries and fixed meaning. You are also using the word “inbetweenie” which is humiliating to adults. You know that you are working for the body police, right? and you’re upset ...
The police are very kind when I’m a young white woman just doing my job,...– - Mary Burnet, quoted in “Trying to understand a tragedy” at the Halifax Media Co-op (April 23, 2012) (via garconniere) This expresses very well many things that are important about how it is hard to act to preserve the safety of vulnerable people when you know state security to be essentially...
chasingdunamis asked: Please continue to straight up serve these fools, Jesse.
Staring At The Sun, Standing In The Sea
chasingdevon: apdt: “And it’s racism. All of it. It is unquestionably, objectively racism. It’s not some guy going out to lynch nigras for looking at white women, but that’s not the entirety of what racism is. Racism is a system. Racism is a way of thinking. Racism is subconscious. Racism is an entire country being trained to suspect an entire race of being shifty, lazy, or suspicious by...
This Post is Brave and Honest and people who may...
boxcutterhaircut: Qu’est-ce Que J D?: HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE THIN PRIVILEGE 4: A WILD SPECULATION APPEARS This conversation has brought up some things I’ve been thinking about a lot over the last while. Bodies, privilege, fatness, thinness, etc. I would definitely say that I have thin privilege, but would never call myself thin. I feel like I more closely identify as a fat person,...
yesterday’s paper called Beyonce “the Crazy In Love hitmaker,” and today’s calls Britney “the Toxic hitmaker.” never mind that both used italics instead of quotes for song titles… what year is this?? are we really like “hey remember these girls, they were famous nine years ago?”
"YOU FIGHT LIKE A DAIRY FARMER" →
shakethecobwebs: I actually don’t know any gorillas who operate motor vehicles, but if you could point me to one, that would be just dandy.
What I see on tumblrs of Who Is Nice To Look At
hottiesinanimalears: I have nothing against slim, feminine, white women. I really like some. I really love some. Some of my best friends are white. Some of the sexiest women I know are thin. Some of the best sex I have ever had was with slim, feminine white women and all their friends. But this is the INTERNET. We can’t make it another place where thin, white women are all we see when we want...
HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE THIN PRIVILEGE 4: A WILD...
shakethecobwebs: rljd: Ironically, this actually puts me in the position of sincerely asking my earlier rhetorical question - what IS the science of what body is a thin body? Is it just obscene, and you know it when you see it? Because I think that is kind of MY point, actually. YYYYYYUP. Because the only thing more annoying than a thin person denying thin privilege is a fat person...
HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE THIN PRIVILEGE 3:...
shakethecobwebs: rljd: shakethecobwebs: rljd: shakethecobwebs: YOU ARE THIN how do you tell if you are thin Please tell me the science of what body is a thin body… Okay you can give me the judy judge all you like but it’s not a very good “um hello here is a simple one-step piece of information” post when it relies on something arbitrary and constructed like “you are thin.” ...
HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE THIN PRIVILEGE:
shakethecobwebs: rljd: shakethecobwebs: YOU ARE THIN how do you tell if you are thin Please tell me the science of what body is a thin body thanks (asking for a friend) Okay you can give me the judy judge all you like but it’s not a very good “um hello here is a simple one-step piece of information” post when it relies on something...
HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE THIN PRIVILEGE:
shakethecobwebs: YOU ARE THIN how do you tell if you are thin Please tell me the science of what body is a thin body thanks (asking for a friend)
swiftausterity asked: Were you aware that your name is an adverb? Seriously, though, what's the origin story of the stage name? Also, does the backburner crew refer to each other by stage names mainly?
The “white people are square and bland” gag is an old one, and for the most...– Noel Murray of The Onion’s A.V. Club, in his article “Our ‘white people problems’ problem: Why it’s time to stop using ‘white’ as a pejorative.” He’s wrong. The old gag he describes is neither harmless nor healthy, and that’s not because it...
Dear Coquette: On dreads.
dearcoquette: I’m worried that my dreads are wrong and that it’s wrong for me to have them. Historically my culture; be it American, Mexican, or Dutch, does not include dreads. They are also of no spiritual importance to me. I feel that by me having them I am misrepresenting a culture that I do not, in any way, belong to. This does not mean that I would dislike belonging to such culture, it’s...
Jessica Valenti: Misogyny in mass shootings →
jessicavalenti: I’ve seen a couple of posts/reblogs, etc of folks arguing about misogyny in school shootings. Notably, some people think that misogyny has nothing to do with the issue. I’m loathe to get into a big reblog war of words, but I just wanted to point folks in the direction of this great Bob Herbert… This makes me think of Megan Leslie’s great “We Live In A Culture...
Fab 5 Freddy told me everybody’s fly…– Debbie Harry
It’s a distancing gesture, racism with the acknowledgment that I should...– Max Read, in a Gawker article that’s either called “Honky Talk Women” or “A Girls Writer’s Ironic Racism and Other ‘White People Problems.’” I don’t think I like Gawker often, but as much as I’ve overdosed on reading a lot about a show...
I was a huge fan of shows in the 90s, specifically because there were SO many...– Issa Rae, creator of Adventures of an Awkward Black Girl, in her Jane Magazine blog post “People on the Internet can be Hella Racist.”
prunellavulgaris replied to your photo: I’m playing on the secret third day of this… I’m gonna be in Montreal then! That’s the weekend of the bookfair! !!!!!!!!! Last time I was in Montreal was also the weekend of the bookfair! I THINK THERE ARE A LOT OF BOOKFAIRS. I should get you to stand in for me for one song and do Make Hymn Cry. That way it’s still a solo act…
MixtapEP #9: Jesse to Audra
Santigold, “Disparate Youth” 10iller, “Native” M.I.A., “Bad Girls” Rye Rye, “Never Will Be Mine” w/ Robyn Rae Spoon, “Ocean Blue” Bowerbirds, “Tuck The Darkness In” The Kills, “The Last Goodbye” Oops I accidentally posted this to here instead of mixtapEPs! Go look at it in its proper context, here!
Rachel Kramer Bussel: Best Sex Writing 2013 guest... →
rkb: Next Tuesday, May 1st, is the final deadline for Best Sex Writing 2013. Get your submissions in (this week would be ideal but I’m reading through May 1st). Thanks! I’m open to any/all topics, but especially ones that have been underreported, or are new and novel (see Best Sex Writing 2012 for… I’ve read previous editions of this and it’s great! Not always erotic, though...